Goodreads Synopsis: Might you and your baby both sleep better if you shared a bed? How old is too old for breastfeeding? What is a father’s role in nurturing a newborn? How does early attachment foster a child’s eventual independence? Dr. Bill and Martha Sears — the doctor-and-nurse, husband-and-wife team who coined the term “attachment parenting” — answer these and many more questions in this practical, inspiring guide. Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that encourages a strong early attachment, and advocates parental responsiveness to babies’ dependency needs. “The Attachment Parenting Book” clearly explains the six “Baby B’s” that form the basis of this increasingly popular parenting style: Bonding, Breastfeeding, Babywearing, Bedding close to baby, Belief in the language value of baby’s cry, Beware of baby trainers. Here’s all the information you need to achieve your most important goals as a new parent: to know your child, to help your child feel right, and to enjoy parenting.
I’d been looking forward to reading this book for awhile, as I had heard so much about Attachment Parenting, so I was really happy when I was able to get it from my library.
If there’s one thing I’m learning from reading all of these parenting help books, it’s that every author is 100% sure that they know ”the right way” to parent. Which I understand you should be confident in your methods, it just seems a little silly to me to assume your ways it the one and only. Personally I think I’m going to be taking bits of all these books and rolling them together to make something that works for me and my family.
But to get back on topic, I did actually like this book a lot. For one it was short, only 192 pages. Which is perfect for help books in my opinion. It gets the point across without being repetitive. I also really liked the huge emphasis this book placed on dads being involved in everything. Usually these baby books have one chapter on dads and what they can do to help the mothers, like dads are just on the sidelines or like the book forgot they even existed. Not this one. The entire book talks from the standpoint of mom and dad being equally involved in the parenting, and I really liked that.
What I didn’t like was how heteronormative this book was. There was no inclusion for LGBTQA families, though I suppose I can hardly expect that as the book was written by a white straight male in 2001. But still, I feel like in this day and age all help books, especially those about parenting should be updating their language to be more inclusive.
The other thing I didn’t like was more personal, and not something actually wrong with the book. I didn’t like how anti-scheduling the book was. Sears made it seem like scheduling your baby was a detriment to their health and well-being. Which seems like bullshit to me. Of course I have yet to have my own children, but I am the eldest of 12 kids and it seems to me like scheduling saved our family’s sanity.
In the end I gave the book 3.5 stars. I liked a good amount of it, I definitly think its one of my favorite parenting help books. But I also think there are some things that could be changed in it, and I’m taking some of the advice with a grain of salt.