Top Ten Tuesday is a weekly blog event hosted by The Broke and The Bookish.
This week’s topic was a hard one for me to write about, I couldn’t decide if I wanted to go with the actual theme or change it to “Top Ten Problematic Assholes” because I have issues with a lot of romances in novels. Let’s face it, there’s a lot of patriarchal bullshit that still gets put in stories. There are stupid troupes about people feeling like they ”own” another person once they get into a relationship. There’s all of this ”alpha male” shit where guys are supposedly showing their ”love” by being abusive jerks. Or even this mistaken view that there’s “the one” person out there for you to love. I could go on and on.
In the end I decided to do a bit of both. I went with 8 examples because I wanted to have an even number and apparently I can’t come up with 5 book couples that I love. I blame past me for not writing more reviews! The first four are some of my favorite couples in literature. The last four are examples of relationships that I thought were awful.
1. Alana & Marko.
Alana and Marko don’t have a perfect relationship at all, but they consistently have what it takes to make their relationship better. Alana and Marko are equals, they work together really well and no one tries to assert power over the other. They have their fights, they even get close to breaking up, but the story deals with it really well. These two guys are probably my favorite straight couple ever. 🙂
2. Monty & Percy.
Yes, I did use this book in my last TTT, but it’s just that good of book. Go read it now. 😉
Anyway. Okay so Monty is a selfish person in the beginning. He has a very unhealthy attitude towards relationships, but in the end he learns from his mistakes. Monty learns he has to change if he wants to be a good partner to Percy. And that’s what I really appreciated about this romance.
3. Cath & Levi.
Honestly I need to read this book again, but from what I can remember these two were really great with each other. The thing I liked best about it was that Levi was considerate of Cath’s introverted-ness and her anxiety. He never told her it was all in her head. He never tried to push her to live life his way. He met her where she was and let her grow. They learned to share interests together. This is the way to do things people!
4. Gideon & Kyle.
I loved this book, and these two love birds are among some of my top favorite ever. First I loved that they were friends before they started a relationship. It gave their love a really great foundation. The other great thing about these two is they actually communicate! It’s hard to learn how to talk to someone new not to mention someone you care so deeply about, but Gideon and Kyle try it and keep trying till it works.
5. Scarlett & Julian.
I dislikes this book for a lot of reasons, but one of my biggest reasons was the way that Julian sexually harassed Scarlett. I wrote an entire post about it actually, and you can find that here. But basically Julian never learned to take no for an answer. Scarlett was clearly not interested in him to begin with, but he kept pushing and pushing.
6. Botille & Symo.
In an otherwise fantastic book, The Passion of Dolssa falls in to the troupe of abusive man is just trying to ”protect” the fragile woman. Symo pushes Botille around, aggressively grabs her and is just generally disagreeable. It’s one thing to do these things and then apologize and make up for it, it’s another to completely ignore them and pretend like you’re in the right. Unfortunately Symo falls into the last category.
7. Any Sarah J. Maas romance ever.
Through the Throne of Glass series I found myself disliking a lot of things. But one thing in particular were the romances. Particularly towards the last book. Aelin and Rowan are all about claiming each other, and it’s very disturbing and predatory. They are actually described as marking each other with a scent once they’ve had sex.
8. Melanie & Jared.
Now while this book is 10 times better than the Twilight series, it still has some romance issues. When the couple first meet Melanie is 17 and Jared is 26 and the first thing he does is kiss her, to be fair he doesn’t know how old she is at first. But he does later and that doesn’t stop them from starting a relationship. Later, once Wanderer is in Melanie’s body, Jared turns into a massively abusive man. The book tries to condone it by saying that Jared is just grieving. But I’m sorry no amount of sorrow gives you the right to hit people. Jared strikes Melanie at least twice in the books, to the point where she has bruises for weeks. He even raises his hand to hit a 14 year old child. At that point I pretty much hated his character for life.
And that’s it for today! Don’t forget to comment and leave a link to you Top Ten Tuesday and I’ll be sure to check out your blog. 🙂